It is SO easy to get caught up in negativity. In people’s flaws. Sulking in our bad circumstances. Complaining, grumbling, judging, thinking the grass is greener.
I can name at least 5 people off the top of my head whom I try to avoid because I just feel YUCKY after being around them. I bet you can name a few “negative nancies” or “debbie downers” too, can’t ya?
I have written many posts about being thankful, and one of the ways I have really learned to have a thankful heart is to find the GOOD.
Find the good in everything and everyone!! It is possible, and it’s a choice we make. We can to choose to look at the good or bad- in people, in circumstances, in life.
I will never forget a golden piece of advice a friend’s mom gave me in college (before I was even married) that has always stuck with me. She told me that when women get together, it often turns into a spouse bashing session where women complain about their husbands and almost to compete to see whose man has the most/worst flaws. She told me to be very careful and conscious of that and always speak loving, edifying words about my husband, no matter what everyone else is saying. Now that I’m married, I see EXACTLY what she is talking about! And I am SO thankful for her advice. I really try not to get caught up in that garbage….
This reminds me of a principle I was taught at a marriage conference last year. It’s called the 80/20 principle. No person is going to have a full 100% of what you were looking for in a spouse….It’s probably 80% good, 20% you might would change if you could. Lots of times, affairs result from people searching for others who fulfill that 20%, rather than focusing on and nurturing the 80% we have at home. What a BRILLIANT concept! Today, choose to be thankful for all of your husband’s GOOD qualities. He has them…lots of them. That’s why you married hi, right? So no more nagging, no more complaining, no more spouse bashing (to him or others!). Make a CHOICE to FOCUS ON THE GOOD. He will be a better man if you do. You will be a better woman too. And your marriage will only prosper.
Whether it’s your spouse, family, finances, health, job, whatever…..change your perspective towards it. I guarantee you will be MUCH happier and definitely more pleasant to be around. Others are drawn to positivity & optimism. If you step back and examine yourself and get completely real and honest, are you drawing people or repelling them with your attitude??
Today, make an effort to FIND THE GOOD.